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Showing posts with label sexiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexiness. Show all posts

Friday, June 8, 2012

Workout seeks sexiness through strength

AUSTIN (KXAN) - At a North Austin workout gym, teachers and students strive to be sexy. It’s not the typical, shallow, Hollywood definition of the term. It’s something they define themselves inside the sanctum of their “woman cave.”

“We have a great karma here,” said student Susan Ellis. “All of these women encourage each other because we all started in the same place. We were trying to get up the pole."

The Pole

The pole is the pinnacle of the workout regimen at the Inner Diva Studios . Actually, there are a bunch of poles, poles that form the vortex of each woman’s ascent into that rarified atmosphere of strength, confidence, power, attributes that according to the gym philosophy, add up to the “sexy.”

“I love strong women,” said teacher Danyelle Eddy, “and this pole will make you strong inside and out.”

As a pulsating beat escapes a powerful sound system, the women grab their poles and start to sway. A foot finds a spot to grasp. A hand reaches high. In seconds the women are wrapping legs around their poles, turning themselves upside down and inside out, spinning in circles and gracefully returning to the ground.

It looks easy. It is anything but.

The Australian

“I saw Felix Cane ,” said teacher Brenna Wilder. “She is a beautiful pole dancer out of Australia. I saw one of her performances and after I saw her dance I was like, 'I have to do this.’ This woman is not human. She defies gravity. She is amazing. She is strong. She is beautiful. I want to be able to do that.”

Pole dancing is only one of the disciplines offered at Inner Diva. In fact, owner Cherie Williams intentionally collected everything from Zumba to exercise ball routines under one roof.

The Camaraderie

And no matter what the workout, camaraderie is in the very air here.

“You set your goal, “said Ellis, “and every time somebody reaches that goal, everybody claps and, you know, you feel good about it.”

The Grandma

Ellis is the self-proclaimed “grandma” of the group. She won’t divulge her exact age but admits to having passed half a century of life on the Earth.

“I've gotten a lot stronger,” she said, “and a lot more confident and I don't think there are any grandpas out there that are going to take me on.”

She laughs heartily and her fellow pole dancers join in. It is that attitude that sets Inner Diva apart.

“Women like that concept,” the gym owner said. “They can come and be relaxed and kind of, you know, get their sexy on.”

The Sexy

But “sexy” here is not the shallow, Hollywood version that sells everything from beer to bikinis. It is, instead, an attraction born of strength and confidence, an attraction that looks good on any woman, classically “beautiful” or not.

The Layoff

In fact, it is the same kind of inner quality that led Williams to open the gym in January of 2011. She had come to Austin four years ago to work for Motorola, but when the company started laying off workers in the wake of the great recession, she lost that job.

“I was kind of debating on did I want to go into a winery or did I want to go into clothing boutiques?” Williams said.

Meanwhile, she was working out at several gyms, trying to take advantage of the various disciplines. As her strength grew, so did her spirit. She reached deep, aimed high, summoned her power and built a business designed to help other women do the same thing.

Nicole Fedrizzi was an early enrollee.

“We did a little routine, you know, trying to be sexy,” Fedrizzi recalled. “I had problems with that. I had to get past that. But I've gotten way past that.

“I'm a lot stronger and I can do more advanced tricks. There's still a couple of things I can't do that some of the other girls can, but I'm in love with it so I just keep coming back and keep doing it.”

At her side, student Stacey Bishop agreed.

“I’ve seen my strength improve and my confidence improve,” Bishop said. “I’m getting my little danceresque on and stuff like that I've never done in my life.”

The Transformation

Teacher Eddy, has heard it all before.

“I've seen girls come in here covered from head to toe in sweat pants and t-shirts,” she said. “And now they're walking around in short shorts and tank tops. They've got their confidence and they're rocking it.

“That all comes from the inside and shines on the outside. And then, not to mention, look at our biceps. We've got some sweet biceps rocking,” she grinned.

The Olympics?

That leads to the question: Is pole dancing a sport? Lots of people say it is. In fact, the push is on to make it part of the competition at the 2016 Summer Olympics.

But pole dancing, of course, is so far best known for its use in strip clubs and Williams sees nothing wrong with that use.

“We back those ladies,” she said, “because we have women that come in from the night clubs sometimes and take our classes, so they're better at their jobs.”

But most of the students at Inner Diva come from more mainstream professions and they are here not to learn how to reveal the beauty of their naked bodies, but rather to

bring out the strength of their inner being.

“I don't think you need to be a size two to be sexy,” said Teacher Sarka Mraz. “If you're strong in your core and your heart, then I think that's sexy.”

With that, she hits a switch on the sound system, summons her students to their poles and leads them higher and deeper at the same time.


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Monday, March 26, 2012

When sexiness stops being sexy

PAULA JOYE The women of Jersey Shore have helped create a generation of reality television show addicts who think they're due a glitzy lifestyle.

THE NEW SEXY: The women of Jersey Shore are role models - and style icons - for millions of adolescents.

OPINION: It was an ordinary Saturday night. Not late, about 8.30pm. I was walking through the city, and ahead of me was a pack of women.

They looked about 30 from behind. Maybe on a hen's night? When they turned around I was shocked to see that the packs median age was around 17, 19 tops. Nothing adult about them.

They were dressed (and I use that term loosely) identically in outfits that went something like this:

(From the top) Overly curled, overly sprayed, overly long hair with extensions that fell below the bra line, push-up bras, false eyelashes, black smudgy eyeliner, fake nails painted white, bandage dresses so tight that they walked like their feet had been bound since birth and so short that you could see the brand of their underwear; orange fake tan, glitter body spray, clumpy, chunky high heels (the kind you see wrapped around poles) and lots of jangly, shiny things on their ears, fingers, wrists and ankles.

They'd thrown everything at it. Literally. It looked like their wardrobes and make-up bags had exploded. On top of them. There was way, way too much of everything.

The look was a major fashion fail, but that wasn't the part that disturbed me - we've all got it wrong before, particularly at that age.

These outfits were aggressively suggestive and sexual. There was no nuance, mystery or prettiness. From a distance they looked like a low-budget video shoot and up close it looked like they were open for business - business of the wrong kind.

I remember this age. It's a really strange time. You're fresh out of school with new-found freedom and you push boundaries with your wardrobe to explore your sexuality and femininity.

You also feel invincible - all young people do - and pay little attention to the kind of messages your clothes might be sending because your focus is on yourself and your bright, shiny future. Also, you just don't care. What would the world know anyway?

This is also the moment when suddenly you don't have to wear a uniform every day, so fashion becomes a novelty. This is when young girls dress older than their age - and inappropriately.

It's an important part of growing up, an absolute rite of passage, and a stepping stone on the journey of personal style.

When I was 18, the icons to follow were Madonna and Wendy James. They were boundary pushers in their bustiers, tutus, dog collars and studs.

I copied it all, but there was something more rebellious and anti-establishment about their message, and it had nothing to do with sex.

I know that dressing like them made me feel empowered but not necessarily sexy.

I can't help thinking that some of the more multi-dimensional heroines have been replaced by one giant Kardashian/Jersey Shore/video chick/Hilton/Victoria's Secret mush.

There doesn't seem to be any celebration of diversity, just a whole lot of glorification of waxed/tanned/augmented homogenisation.

This is the part where I begin to sound like a prude, isn't it?

Self-expression through fashion is essential. Young women should look shocking, be shocking, get it wrong, get it right, have fun and experiment with genre, time period - all of it.

I fear that's getting lost in a ridiculous rush to be sexy, and an even more contrived idea of what sexy looks like.

When did it stop being a pair of high heels and red lipstick and become Soft Porn Barbie? It's not just boring - it's dangerous.

Later in the week, at a makeup counter in a big department store, I started chatting to a young guy waiting patiently for his girlfriend, who was getting her makeup done. They'd both just turned 18.

I said: "You must love her very much to sit here while all this goes on". He replied: "Yeah, I love her, but I love her heaps more without all that on stuff her face".

Me too, Buddy. Me too.

-Sydney Morning Herald


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